The new reality requires new rules. For everyone, not just for children. Perhaps you’re once again asking your child if they brushed their teeth? Or perhaps you’re once again fighting over the same thing? Think about areas in which you could use some new home rules. They will help regulate the rhythm of the day and create a sort of framework within which everyone can move safely. Rules established together, that are understandable for everyone, will help reduce tension at home and support you in everyday situations. This is one of the most effective ways to maintain order in a group, not only at preschool and school, but also at work or during workshops with adults. It is important that each of the rules is well discussed with the child, that it is clear to them where this rule is coming from, what it means to obey it and what constitutes its violation. Together with your child, you can even do role-plays depicting the discussed situations, ones that show compliance with the rule and ones that illustrate its violation. It will take you some time to go through the rules, but it will be more effective than ordinary dos and don’ts.
IN THE KINGDOM OF FEELINGS
You can write down the established rules in the form of a Charter of Principles of Your Kingdom/Home. Even if your child can’t read yet, you can still refer to the pre-set rules. Remind them what you talked about and what you agreed on. Remember, of course, that a child can also refer to these rules when, in their opinion, you don’t comply with them – after all, they are the rules of your home. For inspiration, you can use the principles proposed in the series of classes entitled “In the Kingdom of Feelings” – they all relate to maintaining mutual respect and creating a safe space for expressing feelings and emotions.