Similar, yet different
Have you ever wondered that although we often feel that we belong to a group, as members we are still very different from each other? It’s important that children are also aware of this. This will help them reduce the tension between the need to belong to a specific group, whilst having their own sense of identity. Thanks to this, it will be easier for them not to give in to peer pressure and say: “I’m with you but I have my own opinion”.
How do you work on this? Do the exercise together and take a look at the groups you belong to: ethnic, gender, linguistic, family, school groups or supporters of a team. Explain to the child that even if we belong to a certain group, we remain ourselves. There’s no need to be exactly like everyone else in the group. For example, football team supporters are of different ages and speak different languages. It’s their love of football that unites them.
Our common roots
Being aware of one’s origins and having roots greatly strengthens the sense of belonging. Creating a family tree is the perfect opportunity to reminisce; not only about family relationships, but also important stories related to these people. Maybe they’re worth writing down? If you don’t know the history of your families well, consider if there is someone you can call and ask. Exploration is a nice occasion to talk to people you haven’t heard from in a long time.
Propose creating a family tree of your family to your children. Talk about what’s important before you start. What will our tree look like? Work out a plan and the details. Then ask everyone to speak their mind. Is everyone pleased? Does everyone have a role? Was it easy to reach an agreement? If not, suggest how you can share your work, if necessary.